Marriage, Ramblings of a Mommy

Betrayal, Apocalypse, and Superhuman Power

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If you are or have been pregnant, then I’m sure you remember having some crazy and emotional dreams. During both of my pregnancies, I remember waking up balling my eyes out at least once a week. My husband thought I was crazy.

For me, for some reason those kinds of dreams have continued even after having my kids. I don’t wake up crying anymore but every night I have some crazy, weird dream. Maybe it’s because I’m still an hormonal, emotional wreck most of the time.

I downloaded a dream dictionary app. I looked up the meanings of my most common dreams, and here are my interpretations..

The most common dream I have is my husband leaving me and our kids.. most of the time it’s for someone else..

Betrayal: Typically represents emotional feelings of insecurity, or literal fears of infidelity. Betrayal dreams often occur for years in the wake of actual betrayals by real life partners. (I have an underlying fear that my husband is cheating, which will come true sooner than later. I guess I should be prepared. And he should be prepared to have everything he owns set on fire.)

One of my craziest recurring dreams/nightmares is the world coming to an end, either by fire or attacked and taken over by aliens..

Apocalypse:  Reflections of one’s uncertainty of his or her future. Typically, an aspect of their waking life is coming to an end, which could be a relationship, career or project. (I’m a stay at home mom, so no career or projects. And I have no friend relationships, just family. So again, pointing to the end of my relationship. So far this isn’t going very well.)

Probably my most hated dream is where my daughter(s) Is either injured or dead..

Baby-Injured: Wounded or injured babies can symbolize troubled relationships, which are in danger of “dying”. (I didn’t realize before writing this that they all were pointing to the end of my marriage, that’s not really what I wanted this post to be about. Now I’m seeing this is probably a little depressing, SORRY!)

Another recurring dream I have is where I’m back in high school..

Back in school: Recurring dreams of being back in school typically reflect performance anxiety in our waking lives, The dreamer feels as of he or she has been sent back in school to either learn how to do the job right or be tested. Dreams of being unable to graduate reflect feeling of being unable to graduate to the next level in waking life. (In other words I believe I am a horrible mother or wife, or both.)

The other night I had a dream that I gave birth prematurely to a girl.. ANOTHER girl. She was so tiny, and she was dying. And I’m not pregnant, at least not that I know of.

Birthing: If your baby is still born, has birth defects or born prematurely, think about goals or romantic relationships that you held high hopes for but which now seem or be dead or deceased. (Either I have no goals, need to make goals, or my marriage is dead. Maybe I should make goals on how I’m going to take care of my kids without my husband.. all signs point to this anyway.)

I also have a constant dream I have powers..

Superhuman power: Reflects waking life feelings of confidence to succeed in achieving a goal, even against great obstacles. (I have confidence in the day my kids start school. Or I have powers and I’m going to rule the world!)

In conclusion, based on my dreams, I’m a bad wife and mother, I have no goals, my husband is either going to cheat or leave me or both, everything he owns will be MYSTERIOUSLY burned to the ground, and if he does cheat I’ll most likely chop IT off.. doesn’t look so bright for either of us!

I have always believed your dreams mean something. But after writing this it’s a little scary, I’m hoping these meanings do not come true!

I promise my next post will not be so depressing!

Thanks for reading 😉

 

 

 

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Marriage

A Little Romance

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A little romance goes a long way..

I don’t know about you, but I can’t even remember the last time my husband and I had a little romance in our marriage. With the kids and my husbands work schedule, it kind of seems impossible. My husband has never really been a romantic person anyway. We’ve never celebrated Valentines day.. I know, sad, it’s okay to feel bad for me..

But there are little things you can do for each other here and there to keep the romance and marriage alive.

 

1. While he’s at work, send him romantic, (or dirty) text messages. Anything sweet to just let him know you’re thinking about him.

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2. Simple hugs and kisses go a long way.

3. Let him know that you appreciate everything he does for you and your kids.

4. Set date nights at least once a month, even if it is for just thirty minutes.

5. Leave a little love note like on the mirror or white board on the fridge, so it’ll be the first thing he sees in the morning when he gets up for work.

 

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6. Cook a meal together.

7. Give each other a massage while the kids are napping.

8. Take at least 5 minutes a day to talk and ask how his day went.

9. Cuddle while watching a movie and especially cuddle in bed. Apparently this closeness can lead to more and better sex!

10. Surprise him with some new lingerie.imagesF1B9SU5G

Marriage

Marriage Smarriage

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Who ever says marriage is easy is clearly delusional..

Ya sure the first year, the ‘honeymoon stage’ is all rainbows and unicorns. But I think after the first year, you truely understand the definition of marriage.

1% of the time you’re like “Omg I love him so much, I’m so glad he’s my husband!” And the other 99% you just picture yourself running him over with your car.

I myself have been married for 4 years, I know it isn’t that long but it feels like 10! Literally FIVE days after we got hitched we found out we were pregnant with our first. Funny I know, but I really had no idea! So my husband and I didn’t have the chance to enjoy the honey moon stage before bringing a baby into the mix.

Even before we tied the knot, we had many ups and downs. And then many more after having our first daughter. She had colic for about a month so you can imagine with no sleep we were both at each others throats.

Even after only 4 years, most days I just want to strangle him! But still can’t imagine being married to anyone else.  I’m sure he feels the same about me sometimes, but hey that’s marriage right?

We are complete opposites in our views and the way we think.. which leads to a lot of arguing. He’s the type of person who believes money comes before family. He would rather be wealthy and have nice things than broke but able to spend time with family. This is a constant issue with us. Family is the most important in my eyes, and I would rather my see my kids happy with their daddy than living the luxurious life. But that’s just me.

He’s one of those dads that thinks just because he works and provides for the family he doesn’t have to help with housework and the kids.

He always tells me, ‘If you need help with the kids just ask.’ I’m like hello they’re your kids too, IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO DUDE! I shouldn’t have to ask.

Ladies if you have a husband who willingly helps with your kids and housework and actually appreciates all that you do.. consider yourself LUCKY!!

I just WISH my hubby could walk a week in my shoes. Then he would understand and appreciate what I go through. He honestly thinks I get to sit at home and relax all day and I have it soo easy.

I mean seriously, he gets to sleep, nap, poop in peace, shower in peace.. if I get to take a hot bath for 30 min I’m like OMG IT’S LIKE CHRISTMAS!

There’s one quote I love on marriage, it’s funny but also completely true…

Marriage. Is the only way during which you sleep with your enemy.